Parental involvement in a school can be a good thing as long as the parents know their place. Many eyes have begun to roll after that first sentence, I know. Schools want parents to be involved because most times, if parents are involved then the behavior problems are minimized and the students come prepared to learn. Parental involvement can be good because different people bring new and fresh ideas.
Parents can have opinions and suggestions but they can't make demands. It seems as though some parents think they are entitled to have their ideas put into place simply because they exist. Schools don't have to do what parents say. Teachers and principals have the right to make decisions at their school without consulting the parents. If you are consulted or asked your opinion, you should give it and feel privileged to have been asked. Your input at your child's school is not a right, it is a privilege. I am in no way suggesting that schools discourage parental involvement. Parents are important to a school. Things seem to get ugly when parents want something and they don't get it. Slanderous emails about teachers are sent and some parents have threatened to stop donating money to schools because they didn't get what they wanted. I once had a parent tell me that parents who donate a lot of money to a
school should have some say as to what goes on in the classroom. WTF!!
If you own stock in a company, can you go to a shareholders' meeting and
demand changes to company policies? Microsoft, here I come!! If schools knew that strings were attached to the donations that they received, I'm not so sure they would take them.
There seems to be a lack of respect towards teachers from parents. Parents criticize teachers in the presence of their children. Teachers are threatened with lawsuits. Teachers are professionals just like doctors and lawyers and they should be treated as such. Parents think that they can tell the teachers how to teach and interact with children. How many parents would tolerate someone coming to their place of employment telling them how to do their job? Parents everywhere, the school is the teachers' place of employment and you need to respect that fact.
Are teachers perfect? NO! There are no perfect parents either. We are all flawed in some way. At some point while your child is in school you may have an issue with a teacher. The key is how you handle that issue. Be respectful.