Should Mother's Be Held Responsible When Their Boyfriends Harm Their Children
Mothers need to be careful when choosing a mate after parting from their childrens' father. A little boy was killed by his mother's live-in boyfriend on his 4th birthday. Her family was on the news publicly condemning the boyfriend. They are totally correct. Does she bear some responsibility for her son's death? Are mother's responsible for choosing a mate that will love and care for their child? Her family said that he was an evil person and anti-social. If the family knew he was a bad person before today, why didn't she know what kind of person he was?
Several years ago the police superintendent of Chicago publicly criticized a mother whose child was shot in a van because someone was aiming at her boyfriend, who is a known drug dealer. He said that she was responsible for her child being shot. She demanded an apology and I believe he refused. I think that he was correct. She endangered her child by not only associating with a known drug dealer but she was dating him. I think she bore some responsibility.
My mother always told me to be weary of the company you keep. She told me to surround myself with nice, kind and loving people who don't get into trouble. You can pick up the newspaper on any given day and read stories about boyfriends abusing their girlfriends' children. Ladies, lets do a better job choosing a man. Our children deserve it!
I think that she should be charged with child endangerment. She choose this man as her boyfriend and she choose to live with him. She has to bear some responsibility. As a mother, she has to keep her children safe. If your child gets hurt in your home and you don't know exactly how it happened, you may be investigated by the Department of Children and Family Services. Parents know that children may get hurt playing with siblings or may take a tumble down the stairs and these things are unavoidable. Getting beat to death on your 4th birthday by your mother's boyfriend is avoidable! I don't believe that the boyfriend has never demonstrated violent behavior before beating the boy. If the mother claims to not have seen this side of him, then she needs to be banned from dating until her children are grown because she does not know how to choose a man.
Even though I am expressing my strong opinions about this issue, my heart truly goes out to the family of this child. May God bless this family!
Posted by Tracy at 12:47 AM