I think that we can all agree that there are some people who should not be parents. Today I will talk about people who should not be parents. There are some extraordinary people who have been able to take a bad situation and really turned their lives around. If you are one of those few extraordinary people, don't be offended by my comments because I am talking about the non-extraordinary people who could not get it together.
There was a couple who had a live-in nanny and a night nurse to care for their children. This couple should not be parents. They have clearly taken every step necessary to make sure that they are not inconvenienced by their children. When you have to hire someone to feed and change your baby's diaper in the middle of the night, you don't really want to be a parent. They would let their 5 year old watch the tonight show which aired at 10:30pm because they got home late and wanted to spend time with him. What were they doing for their kids other than making the money to pay the hired help?
Several months ago, there was a 17 year old pregnant girl who was shot to death while out with a male friend. Her baby was delivered and survived. She also had an 18 month old son at home. To date, I have not read anything about the father(s) coming forward for custody of either child. Her friends and family were quoted in the newspaper as saying that she was a great mother. I don't mean to speak ill of the dead but...............That statement can never be true for several reasons. 1) How can any 17 year old be a great parent when they don't even know who they are and can't take care of themselves? 2) How are you a great parent at 17 when you are on child number 2? 3) She was out at 10:30 on a school night with another child at home being watched by someone else. 4) She was attending an alternative school for troubled youth. I could go on, but this one is too easy.
There are a lot people who claim to be caught off guard by a pregnancy. In 2011, should that still be occurring? I can't keep track of all of the birth control methods that are available today. Why are so many people caught off guard? They shouldn't be, if they didn't use any method. Newsflash.... "If You Don't Use Birth Control When You Have Sexual Intercourse, You Can Get Pregnant"! I know someone who didn't use birth control because she ran out of her birth control pills and her mother didn't refill her prescription. Anybody that stupid should not be a parent. And to prove my point, she has had the baby and continues down the path of stupidity with the child. These things are too easy to predict.
I think that there should be an age limit for being a parent. Teenagers
as well as anyone under twenty one should not be parents. They don't
know enough about themselves or life in general. Most people in this
age range are too immature to handle parenting. They are not willing to put their needs aside to provide for the child's needs. This group is typically not financially secure to handle the financial aspects of providing for a child. Just because you become pregnant, doesn't mean that you must become a parent. You can choose abortion or adoption. There are too many married couples who are unable to have children of their own who would love to adopt a baby. As a young parent who is not mentally, emotionally or financially able to provide for a child, adoption is a good way to give your child a great life. You could choose an open adoption and this will allow you to see your child and watch him/her grow up.
There was couple on the TV show Teen Mom who gave their baby up for adoption. That was the best decision they could have made. Both of them come from dysfunctional families. They had an open adoption and they are allowed to visit their child. They both struggled to finish high school and find jobs. Its nice to hear them admit that they made the right decision for their child. If more young people made this grown up choice, our schools would be better. I would be willing to bet that if you surveyed all of the bad kids in school, you would discover that more than half of them are children of single mothers who have never been married.
Did I mention that December is AIDS Awareness month? There are a large number of people who think that they have been injected with a vaccine that protects them against AIDS and all other STDs. Always, always use a condom if you choose to have sex with anyone who is not your spouse. If you have a cheating spouse, you might want to use a condom with your spouse.